Make it work: just do it

In my post, “How to discern the answer you’re looking for,” I talk about a trek into the desert that brings clarity to a dilemma and, although not a make-or-break-me situation, it’s a debate I engage in with myself on the daily (isn’t that a fun, hip phrase?). To write, or not to write—that is and has been the question for decades. However, during said hike, I discover, with certainty, that the desires knit into my heart prior to conception are not without a purpose (although TBD). So why don’t I jump for joy and shout with exultation?! Because life. And its plethora of more pressing goals and commitments; the battle between self-care and self-indulgence; the act of self-sacrifice to put others’ needs ahead of our own. But wait! To make it work does not mean all or nothing, nor does it require a choice of one dream at the expense of others. To make it work means: just do it.

How do you make it work?

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A simple touch of kindness

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During Yoga practice and the spine strengthening series, yogis rest on their stomachs in between poses.  At that time, some of the instructors will “walk” on any eager feet.  The last time I was the recipient of this brief exchange, I was thankful for the willingness of my teacher to freely offer the gift of touch to her students.  During that moment of meditation, I felt a strong appreciation and wondered how many others in my life crave such a simple act of affection.  It seems we are more concerned about crossing over boundaries or insulting so we keep our distance.  That’s not what I want to be remembered for.  I would rather be thought of as the person who stepped outside her comfort zone and embraced a fellow mother, daughter, brother … human being.  Perhaps we’d be a lot happier if we didn’t worry so much about whom we offend, but instead care about those we friend.

Do you regularly show others kindness through a simple touch?

In silence, the heart speaks

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The best conversations with mothers
always take place in silence, when only the heart speaks.
~ Carrie Latet

Just when I think I’ve got it all figured out, I realize I don’t.  My daughter came to me looking for counsel a few nights ago and I truly felt inadequate.  Not because I haven’t lived through similar experiences, but because she really values my opinion and I’m afraid of saying the wrong thing — possibly steering her in a direction she shouldn’t go.  And right now, my track record in the area she needs guidance with is not exactly impressive.  So while I’m feeling the sting of incompetency, she’s telling me it’s okay if I don’t have sage words of advice; she simply appreciates my willingness to listen.  I can do that.  And I’ve got the hug part down, too.  It’s encouraging to know I’m still needed, but not expected to have all the answers.  Hopefully, we both keep learning as we go.

Do you have it all figured out?