Loving yourself: a lesson on self-worth

 

Perhaps, we should love ourselves so fiercely,
that when others see us they know exactly
how it should be done. ~ Rudy Francisco

It’s funny how we can learn how to operate something complex, like a smartphone, in a matter of hours (maybe minutes), but it can take a half century or more to figure out the simplest of truths. My self-worth, for more years than I care to think about, had been wrapped up in how others perceived me: Was I pretty enough? Witty, skinny, engaging, smart, creative, strong… enough? Admittedly, over the years, I have not measured up in my own eyes—whether true or unfounded. To see my value from a higher perspective has required trial and error, (mental) kicking and screaming and a conscientious effort. It means extending grace rather than criticism. And perhaps, instead of labeling our flaws as flaws, we should view them as perfect imperfections that set each of us apart as originals.

What one thing do you love about yourself?

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Addressing the hard stuff

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I’ve noticed that once I agonize over one decision and finally choose the path I’ll take, another choice inevitably needs to be made.  I think it’s because of the ripple effect — a series of consequences caused by a single action or event (Dictionary.com).  But the good news is that once we pinpoint the root(s) of our problems, we’re in a position to address and nip it or them in the bud (effectively cutting off  any ripples).  For me, it’s been helpful to ask the question: Why?  Using low self-worth as an example, I’ve sought to understand the reason(s) I continue to battle this character flaw despite the loving support of family and close friends.  Validation of my worth is not a harmful endeavor in itself, unless my trials with low self-esteem lead the way to poor decision-making.  Whatever the reason(s) we entertain a negative behavior, however, turning it around is key.

What’s your MO for addressing the hard stuff?