Trapped in time

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Trapped in time

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Ever feel like you’re trapped in your circumstances? Pain, depression, job from Hell, neighbors who aren’t so neighborly, family situation, <fill in the blank> … we’ve all experienced our share of disappointment. Unfortunately, there’s no quick fix—or “Drano”—to untrap ourselves. Some rely on prayer as the answer. For others, it’s meditation, writing, exercise, participating in a one-(wo)man cleaning frenzy or lending a helping hand to someone in need. I’ve done all of these at one time or another and, for me, each has its own place to temporarily remove me from whatever situation I’m dealing with. But another suggestion is to make one small change in your routine. If you’re in pain, try something new to relax your mind or a particular pressure point. If you’re in a dead-end job, begin with updating your resume. Relationship issues? Start talking. By taking a proactive step, we begin to move in the right direction and regain a sense of control.

How do you resolve those feelings of entrapment?

The biggest loser

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Last week I beat myself up over a mistake I inadvertently made.  I felt like the “biggest loser,” only not the kind who lost weight on national TV.  I think one of the reasons it hit me so hard was because I had prepared a failsafe after something similar happened.  Only I had not considered someone else dropping the ball.  It turns out another pin in the cog was responsible; however, if my failsafe had included that risk, the situation could have been prevented.  A revised plan is in place now, and I feel as ready for anything as I’ve ever been.  But even if I’m not, what matters is how I move on from something like that.  Wallowing in self-pity does nothing.  It was in proactively tracing the steps from start to finish that allowed me to find the breakdown in the process and repair it.  We’re human; mistakes are going to happen.   The important thing is learning from them.

How do you handle the inevitable mistakes?