Time heals

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Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.
~ Hippocrates

Personally, I believe that time provides a buffer, a safeguard or defense, to help prevent the heart from breaking into a thousand little pieces each time we experience some sort of loss in our lives.  And many of us also undergo the seven steps of grief which, of course, affect everyone differently.  Speaking for myself, I think it would be nice to remove the middle-man of time and speed up the entire healing process.  Maybe it’s possible to help it along by heeding Hippocrates’ words and providing the opportunity — filling our waking hours with our favorite pastime, a new passion and/or the company of friends or family — in order to make the step-by-step transition easier.  Eventually we may get to that place where the wounds become less visible, perhaps leaving only a few battle scars on the surface of our hearts.  I’ll let you know how that goes for me … in time.

Have you given yourself the opportunity for healing?

The common thread of loss

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When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~ Kahlil Gibran

This past week, the topic of loss has been no stranger both nationally and locally: a music icon, a former high school classmate and the three-year anniversary of my mother’s passing.  Loss is one of those common, yet inevitable threads — like illness and taxes — which we all encounter at some point in our journey.  Which means it cannot help but allow us to span the distance between our own lives and those of people we’ve never before met.  Because eventually, we’ll all pass through that well-traveled place of deep distress.  Recently, I read that empathizing Italians say L’ho provato sulla mia pelle, which means “I have experienced that on my own skin”— a visual described as mutually sharing the scorch mark or scarring that grief leaves behind.  Consequently, as we collectively and individually move forward on our life’s route with its myriad ups and downs, I believe none of us are truly alone.

How do you or others close to you express the sense of loss?

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