Achieving common ground

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Achieving common ground

We will never agree with everything someone thinks or feels or stands for. But that doesn’t mean we can’t strive for understanding and acceptance of our differences. Recently, I made the mistake of assuming a friend of mine and I were on the same page in regard to a certain situation. Although my friend—I’ll call her Paige—said “yes” to my take on things, I later learned that did not mean she agreed with me. In my post, “Agreeing to disagree,” I cover our dissimilarities and how they color our interactions with others, oftentimes casting us in circles or up against brick walls. Instead of agreeing to disagree, however, I’d prefer to achieve common ground—the middle-of-the-road compromise where both parties have a say and, although it might not be a perfect solution, each can live with the outcome. Give and take is a healthy part of any relationship, as long as everyone’s voice is heard and mutual respect is offered.

How do you achieve common ground?

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A few of my favorite things

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I remember my mom telling me if we all liked (fill in the blank here), it would be an awfully boring world.  Our tastes, likes, dislikes, aversions, hopes and dreams are uniquely ours.  And thank goodness, because imagine the limited selections of books and movies, dining and entertainment, clothing and cars (not to mention how crowded it would be if everyone lived in the same “perfect” locale).  Of course, if we were all identical (i.e., cats with their penchant for “cat food”), we wouldn’t know any other way.  But I embrace our differences.  And how the funnest (yes, it’s a word) times in life are when we make compromises because of them.  Like when I’m hungry for a veggie pizza and my friend craves a meat-lovers so we order half-and-half (no sides touching).  I’m also reminded how our differences allow us the opportunities to try something new — such as a food or shared experience — and find out it’s our new favorite.  So go ahead: you say tomato and I’ll probably still say tomato, but a few of my favorite things remain those common bonds enjoyed with the ones I love.

What are a few of your favorite things?