Two are better than one: sharing our burdens

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Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-10a

A couple weeks ago, my husband and I were acting out the bad-cop, good-cop scenario during a situation wrought with adulting. You know the kind: big decisions with life-altering consequences. On one day, I’d be…[read more]

Two are better than one: helping each other succeed

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You know when you’re wrestling with a dilemma and not one, but three people share roughly the same thoughts about it? That happened to me recently: an ongoing issue caused me to second guess decisions I’d put in place. One friend tells me I’m re-opening a door long-closed. The second friend texts me a quote that reads: “There may be times when it seems that you cannot go forward, but at least you do not have to go backward.” A third friend re-iterates what I hear from the first two. It seems that in many, if not all cases, others view our situations with more objective eyes than we do. I believe that’s because—whatever the circumstances—we’re likely invested on an emotional level which could cloud our judgment. Although our friends might deal with any fallout we experience, ultimately we’re the ones who live with the consequences of our actions. But that doesn’t mean we can’t accept a helping hand.

When do others know better than you?

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The #1 way to change your life

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Following a recent set of immunotherapy injections I receive weekly, I experienced a minor adverse reaction. This involved lightheadedness and elevated blood pressure, which resulted in extra TLC from clinic staff and revised treatment plan. Afterward, I second-guessed my reaction and feared the emergency medical attention bordered on overkill. I’m sure we’ve all done it: second-guessed words spoken (which can’t be retracted), choices made that are irreversible. A post on social media reads: You’re always one decision away from a totally different life. Not that it matters if we choose vanilla over chocolate ice cream, but whether we respond in love rather than hate, fellowship versus isolation. Or we decide to ‘put up or shut up’ and accept the consequences. It’s easy to blame extenuating circumstances because it removes our own culpability, however, I think it’s time to quit dwelling on the what if’s and determine our own destiny. We still might second-guess ourselves, but we could also change our lives.

What life-changing decision will you make today?

An authentic life

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Authentic life

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In my recent Word-of-the-month post, I talked about the nihility — or deep void — I’ve been struggling with lately.  After contemplating this overall emptiness, however, I’m wondering if it isn’t so much the missing something as it is not living out a life of day-to-day authenticity.  Instead of living a life true to ourselves, we oftentimes insist on conforming or fitting into a mold of what we (or others) think our lives should look like.  So rather than being who and what we were created to be, we force ourselves into pretend roles of complacency.  Then how do we live authentically?  Do we shed our masks, disregarding the consequences of our actions, and take the chance that we’ll be accepted as we are: dreams, flaws, desires and all?  Or do we continue to forge ahead, dressed in ill-fitting clothing because we’re either afraid, or because it’s the right thing to do?  For me, the answer currently seems as elusive as the wind.

Are you living a life of authenticity?

Oops, I did it again

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Last Sunday I spent the majority of the day feeling miserable.  The night before I ate and drank a combination of foods and beverages that did not agree with my stomach and its ongoing issues.  By the afternoon, I was so uncomfortable that I skipped my Yoga class and spent most of the time catching up on writing and resting.  Which weren’t bad things in and of themselves.  But I knew better.  Sometimes the fleeting pleasure of a “forbidden” food outweighs the consequences but, more often than not, I just end up upset with my lack of self-control.  This concept covers a lot of ground.  But the one thing I am finally beginning to “get” is that it doesn’t help to beat myself up over it.  And the next time I feel like indulging, I will try to remember to ask myself if whatever it is is worth the brief moment of gratification and potential aftermath.

How good are you at saying “no” to the figurative forbidden fruit(s)?

Proactive, passive and popping pimples

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“We accomplish things by directing our desires, not by ignoring them.”
~ Malcolm Forbes

If you ignore it, it’ll go away.  That was my mom’s solution for dealing with pimples.  In response to my recent blog, What we focus on expands, one reader suggested he could stop thinking about his belly and maybe that would work.  I don’t believe that ignoring or taking attention from something will change an outcome; however, it may lessen the consequences.  For instance, when I didn’t heed my mom’s advice and still picked my face, it inevitably took longer to heal.  But if we ignore a bad habit, the barking dog, a pain in our side — whatever it is — it typically gets worse before it gets better (and matters of health should not be brushed under the carpet).  Being proactive rather than passive should garner results, especially when it comes to pursuing our desires.  But not necessarily as it relates to pimples.

Do you ignore things, hoping whatever it is will go away?