Stop the insanity

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Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again
 and expecting different results.
~ Albert Einstein

Ever been in that spot Einstein describes? Or perhaps known someone who complains about life, but continues on the same self-destructive or go-nowhere path? Over the years, I’ve shared some rather strong opinions in love—as well as frustration—with a few close acquaintances to no avail. However, I can’t help but wonder if my words even matter. But as soon as I question the validity or necessity of baring my heart, I know I would not be able to live with myself if I kept silent. What kind of friend, mother, daughter, sister or partner would I be? But I’m also learning it’s best to keep quiet if my words are fueled in anger or won’t build up or edify. And that perhaps I need to take my own advice from time to time. Before the insanity becomes too much.

Do you need someone to tell you to stop the insanity?

Healing a broken heart

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Healing a broken heart

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Time can heal a broken heart
but it can also break a waiting heart.
~ Unknown

The box thing (see Outside of the box) isn’t working so well. It’s just not in my nature to compartmentalize my feelings. In fact, I wear pretty much all my emotions on my sleeve. And now I’m nursing a broken heart. I’ve known heartache over the years, but never at this magnitude. While I wait for time to heal it, it continues to break as it waits — for healing, for dreams to come true, for promises to be kept. For time to pass. In any case, time has slowed to a crawl for this grieving heart. “They” purport that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. But what about the part of you that dies as you keep on living? The part no one can see? I wish there was an easy fix, but apparently time is in no hurry and the journey isn’t over.

Has time healed or broken your heart?

Outside of the box

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Outside of the box

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One of my male friends explained to me that guys are better able to compartmentalize their feelings than women are. Apparently they possess the ability to stuff emotions into imaginary boxes and either ignore, or remove them at will. Females, on the other hand, are equipped with a million wires carrying—non-stop—every thought and feeling they’ve ever had. With all I’m currently dealing with, I figured I’d try the box thing. Yes, I know I’m a girl. But if I don’t “shut down,” I end up dwelling on circumstances I cannot change, oftentimes worrying needlessly or jumping to wrong conclusions. Or just thinking too much. Living “outside of the box” allows me to better focus on what I do have control over without getting my wires crossed. And when I need to examine my feelings, I simply repack the appropriate box afterwards. Someday I hope to purge a box or two. But until then, this is my new normal.

How do you keep feelings from becoming distractions?