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In all of our relationships — whether it’s marriage or boyfriend/girlfriend, parenting or a friendship or even our peers in the work place — it’s easy to dwell on the times that leave a bad taste in our mouths.  But just like I talked about in Mind over matter, it’s up to each of us whether we choose to replace the negative with the positive; it’s also our choice to look ahead rather than behind.  For example, we can choose to forgive our partner for forgetting a special occasion.  And we can choose not to repeat in our minds spiteful words our children say in the heat of an argument.  We can also choose to not hold grudges and to be gracious when someone else makes a mistake.  In my experience it helps to realize I’m oftentimes the offending party, so I can only hope others make the same choice when it comes to me.  To forge ahead instead of lag behind.

Where do you spend the most time looking?